Happy Friday!!

I had a doctors appointment on Monday, nothing big just routine maintenance. Before my appointment I went to lunch with my buddy Drew. I miss Drew. Drew and I worked together when I was in high school. Drew went to the same high school but graduated before I got there. After HS I would run into Drew at least once a year we would hug share a “how ya been?” and that was the end of that. After I moved home my mom invited me to join her at a wedding of a good friend of my brother, and low and behold Drew was there. We talked and reconnected. My favorite band was going to be at the xcel center and I asked Drew if he wanted to go with me and we decided that it would be cool. At this point even though I had moved back to Minnesota from Bismarck I had gotten back together with CGXBF. When I told CGXBF that I was going to the concert with Drew, CGXBF said “good that means I don’t have to go”. He was in Bismarck there was no way he could go, but he didn’t (and never did) care that I was going out with another guy. At the concert it was almost like I just blinked and decided I was done with CGXBF. I was having a great time with a guy I have known for years at a concert of a band I adore. We were just being goofy waiting in line for Guster to sign some of my stuff and I looked at Drew and realized I hadn't been that happy or relaxed in ages. It felt a lot like when I would hang out with The Guys. I wasn't worrying about saying too much, acting too silly or making anybody mad. It was amazing, I guess I didn't notice how much of my personality I had been keeping in for the 3 years I was with CGXBF. The worst part of that weekend lasted 10 minutes and that is when I called CGXBF and told him I wasn't happy and that I was done. I was giddy and grinning, I called Bill and I just felt like a million bucks. I felt truly free. I took a step back and saw that wasn't as good as it was going to get for me. After that Drew and I would have lunch together once a week. When both worked in Eden Prairie and I miss him. Of all the people in my life I think Drew knows me better than anyone. Even better then Rob only because he has seen me go from crazy high school cheerleader to depressed and lonely to self confident and in love. Everyone should have a friends like that.

Oh and on a side note….
Today I am in theory having drinks with Bill. Now the last two times we were to go out he had other things he needed to do. Work and family… that selfish bastard! Kidding! I love the guy.

The Guys

The Guys are… Bill and Pete. I met The Guys when I was dating CGXBF. Pete was CGXBF’s roommate and Bill worked with Pete. Naturally they would hang out at CGXBF’s house so we would all end up hanging out together. I am a tomboy to the core so this thrilled me to no end. I have an unconfirmed feeling that after awhile it wasn’t that they invited CGXBF and put up with me but that they invited CGXBF so that they could hang out with me. I say that it’s unconfirmed, but when all was said and done, I got The Guys in the “divorce”. I also know that at least Bill and his wife wanted to beat the snot outta me for sticking with CGXBF for as long as I did. And that is why I love them.

Ok.. here is one my favorite The Guys stories.

It was a Friday night and I was supposed to hang out with CGXBF and The Guys but CGXBF was working late so I called him to see if he knew when he was going to be done. You see I knew that The Guys were going to be putting up a direct tv dish on the roof of CGXBF’s house, so I asked if I should just head over there and hang until he got home. He told me absolutely not, I was not to go to the house and I should forget about coming over he didn’t know when he was going to be home. Yeah… that pissed me off. So I decided screw that I would head over there anyway. ( I know it sounds like I was in the wrong by going over there anyway, but this wasn’t the first time he had told me I couldn’t hang out with the guys when he wasn’t there, that the guys didn’t want me there. I knew otherwise. I think he couldn’t deal with the idea that they might be MY friends and not just HIS friends that "put up with me for him" ) When I pulled up to the house The Guys were on the roof bolting down the dish. They greeted me and I took my position as BEER WENCH, I mean how can you expect people to install shit on the roof and not have beer. Over the next 3 hours we set up the dish and hung out on the roof drinking beer. I found out some truths that night, you see CGXBF had been telling me all these things that Pete didn’t like about me and Pete had no what I was talking about. Once it got dark someone had the nice idea to put this bright ass light on the roof with us, and it was shining in to the neighbors house. I was sure they were going to complain, but they didn’t. Twice while the 3 of us were sitting up there drinking our beer the cops rolled by, very….very… slowly. They didn’t stop but each time they did we rolled our beer off the back side of the roof. Rumble rumble rumble….crash and then we cracked up. I was having an awesome time. The best part of hanging with The Guys that night was I could totally let loose, they didn’t care and there was none of the pressure you can get when you’re the only girl. Then… CGXBF came home… he saw me on the roof and got PISSED, I failed to tell him I was going to his house anyway. He ended up sending me home soon after Bill left, but not before he told me that The Guys were mad I had been there all night. A fact I knew wasn’t true. Bill and I laugh about it to this day.

I miss The Guys

Well… my Valentine's Day was much more then I had planned for. I made Rob promise me about 2 weeks ago that we wouldn't be doing anything fancy, just cards and that is it. So yesterday before work I was drinking my coffee and Rob had his "I have a secret" grin, (and not the mean "I have a secret and I am not going to tell you about it because I'm an asshole" grin that my CGXBF had.) so I kept asking "what did you do?" over and over and every time he told me nothing the grin got bigger. He didn't tell me what he had done but I knew as soon as I walked into work and our receptionist said Hello and that I had a delivery. He sent me roses at work and I said the exact same thing when he bought the engagement ring I told him not to buy "That jack ass". The receptionist laughed and I told her I was going to call him worse names when I called him. And I did. My sweet romantic jack ass husband sent me flowers at work… no one has done that before but it was really kinda cool.


What we did have planned for Valentine's Day was the delivery of our new sofa.


I even slept on it part of last night. It is comfy!! And the cats seem to love it. The best part is it was dropped off an hour sooner then we thought it would be.
I had a really good Wednesday.


8 days until I see my buddies play at the Entry!!!

Ok... so tonight I am going to a taping of my FAVORITE SHOW that we air at SPNN (I know it's cable access but it's fucking GREAT!!) if you haven't seen the show you should look it up. The taping is at the 7th street entry. I haven't been there is ages and frankly I miss the place. I have a lot of great memories there.
And to add to my good mood I found out this week that two of my buddies from Helva are playing there on the 23rd of feb This time with the band Kingfiled. What sucks is Rob can't go with me, he has to work that night. I am taking a half day off from work so I can go but Rob doesn't really like the music so it hard to justify him taking time off work. Well Rob didn't like the idea of me walking around downtown on a Friday night by myself so he wanted me to find someone to go with me, so I am going with my second favorite guy in the world my buddy Bill. Bill is like me, he is willing to see almost any band live even if he is not a big fan. His wife is like my husband if they don't like the band or even the kind of music the band plays they don't want to bother. So Bill and I agreed that if there was something we wanted to see and the spouse didn't want to go we would be plan B for each other. It's nice to have friends like that.
The last time I was in the Main Room it SUCKED I was getting groped by a total stranger and every time I tried to put my "closeted gay ex-bf" between me and the guy feeling me up by standing in front of my bf to face him to tell him, my bf just pushed me back towards the guy and said "I'm listening to the music" and did nothing to help me. It wasn't until I told his roommate and his girlfriend what was going on did anyone help me. When we got outside I was hysterical I couldn't understand A)why the guy wouldn't stop touching me and B)why didn't my jackass CGXBF do anything to help me. The roommates girlfriend was hugging me because I was shaking so hard and the roommate went and got security told them what happend and had the guy kicked out. The whole time CGXBF thought I was being over dramatic.

And to think I stayed with him after that ... I must have been cracked in the head.

But my life is good now. Great husband, great friends, and good music what more can a girl ask for :)