It is amazing how life has changed. 10 years ago I was with my ex-husband just starting our relationship and talking about moving in together and maybe buying a house. Now look at us, he is married I am getting married and we have never been happier. Who knew that a divorce is what we needed to find our way in the world.
I don't know if he sees it that way but I do. We weren't truly happy, I don't think we ever really were. We wanted to be adults and not alone and that lead us to each other. I was never a good wife to him. I just wasn't ready but I had been in too many one sided relationships and I found someone who wanted it as much as I did so it seemed right. Right for all the right reasons.
Fast forward to Usually. 4 years into the relationship and I have never felt restless or like I am missing out. I am not looking or even noticing if there are options. The guys I found comfort in while married are frozen solid in the friend zone. I never thought I would find someone who was enough. I guess I always thought I would settle for 3-4 years at a time and then move on. It's what I did. Emphasis on did.
Growth and being an adult, who knew it didn't have to suck.